When I interact with people I often like to ask the question "What do you love about your job?" I not only ask my friends, family, and colleagues but also the people who provide specialized services to me. I ask this question because I think it helps me get to know people better. I also learn more about other people's jobs. However, what I have discovered is that often people learn something about themselves when they answer me.
Some people have been so surprised about my question. One person told me that in all his years of work no one had asked him that question. Another person hesitated because she had never thought about it. However, she did answer me in the most thoughtful, meaningful way which showed that she was making some internal connections about her work. Others easily shared a wide range of answers.
I believe a part of leadership skills is being aware of our passions. It is part of that process of self reflection and personal check-in to discover how we are doing. Everyone self reflects in different ways and at different times, but I find it helpful to make the time to do this.
Working with communities I have seen so many people doing what they love: working with people at a community level. The jobs may have different titles, the tasks will be diverse, and the job descriptions or volunteer positions varied. However, it seems that the main focus of the job is helping people increase their quality of life.
What a passion to have: contributing to the quality of life in the community. Those contributions and passions have the opportunity to be powerful in the most positive ways... Keep doing what you love!
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
The Dog Park
A recently discovered "bumping place" in my community is the dog park. Apparently, it is the place to take your dog to learn to socialize, exercise, and play. Our new puppy, Lupa, loves it as do we- a tired, exercised dog is a happy dog!
It is an interesting culture at the dog park. For the first few weeks we knew the names of the dogs, their breed, age, gender, allergies, idiosyncrasies, and other tidbits of information. However, we didn't know the names of the owners! Over time we did begin to learn the owner's names. Dog owners have a routine of either walking the perimeter with their dog, playing with their dog in the middle of the park, or standing near the entrance to watch the dogs interact. I like to interact in a variety of ways in order to maximize my dog's experience. Now after taking Lupa to the dog park for about three months we are having great conversations about something in common with others: being a dog owner.
Having a dog park as a "bumping place" had never crossed my mind. I initially considered the dog park for just exercising the dog. Now I see it as a place to interact with other dog owners and learn more about dog behaviour. I look forward to our "outings" to the park because it is such a social place, for both humans and dogs.
This particular bumping place is special because the city had the foresight to utilize a piece of property that could never be developed. This foresight met the needs of a particular segment of the population. The park is oval, fenced in, has plenty of parking, and is lighted as a result of the commercial properties surrounding it. This means even after dark dog owners can frequent the park. City planners have recently spoke to dog owners to find out how a dog park can be built even more effectively.
A bumping place in any community is a place to be side-to-side with neighbours and have opportunities to interact. Often these bumping places, or gathering places, will be a place where people share a common interest or have the potential to discover differences. These bumping places can blossom into a chance to develop relationships that may forge into a particular community focus or initiative.
There are many stories in our own communities where these bumping places have brought together a group of people. These connections have often created initiatives, a movement, or a project in a community to make communities an even better place to live.
Take the time to seek out a "bumping place" that fits for you in your community. Or, create one yourself! You will never know what may transpire! After all, it is up to each of us to help contribute and create the quality of life we want in our neighbourhoods.
Friday, December 11, 2009
What Are Your Daily Bookends?
"What bookends do you have to start and end your day?"
This was asked of a crowd of over 200 people at a conference. The motivational speaker was addressing how we enter and exit our day. Do we have a positive, reflective approach to our day? Do we view our day with gratitude? How do we answer someone when they ask "how are you?" The speaker continued to share special stories about the ways people answer that question. Some answers included... fabulous, phenomenal, super, terrific, awesome, and stunning. Other stories were funny, uplifting, and priceless.
What stood out for me during the dialogue was that even though I have heard this message before, it is one that I often minimize or not pay attention to. Building gratitude into my daily "bookends" is and should be a natural part of my day. Sandwiching my day between thoughtful and meaningful approaches would guide me to ensure I am consciously aware of the day's events.
Community leaders often build gratitude into community development planning. This "gratitude" is reflective of looking for growth and learning opportunities, building on strengths and successes, sharing stories, and being attentive to volunteers. A "go-for-it" attitude is often part of community success and many communities have benefited from community leaders with this style.
Bookends are not just meant to hold up books. Bookends can be used to withstand the pressure of the day- heavy or light. Applying a reflective, positive attitude toward the day can help build gratitude in what we have done in our communities, no matter how small something may seem.
This was asked of a crowd of over 200 people at a conference. The motivational speaker was addressing how we enter and exit our day. Do we have a positive, reflective approach to our day? Do we view our day with gratitude? How do we answer someone when they ask "how are you?" The speaker continued to share special stories about the ways people answer that question. Some answers included... fabulous, phenomenal, super, terrific, awesome, and stunning. Other stories were funny, uplifting, and priceless.
What stood out for me during the dialogue was that even though I have heard this message before, it is one that I often minimize or not pay attention to. Building gratitude into my daily "bookends" is and should be a natural part of my day. Sandwiching my day between thoughtful and meaningful approaches would guide me to ensure I am consciously aware of the day's events.
Community leaders often build gratitude into community development planning. This "gratitude" is reflective of looking for growth and learning opportunities, building on strengths and successes, sharing stories, and being attentive to volunteers. A "go-for-it" attitude is often part of community success and many communities have benefited from community leaders with this style.
Bookends are not just meant to hold up books. Bookends can be used to withstand the pressure of the day- heavy or light. Applying a reflective, positive attitude toward the day can help build gratitude in what we have done in our communities, no matter how small something may seem.
Friday, December 4, 2009
Have Some Attitude
On one of my recent neighbourhood walks I met Happy and a man with some attitude.
What struck me about this man was his positive, fun attitude. As our dogs met each other briefly the man told me about his ten year old dog. He named him Happy because the man received the dog on his birthday which was on New Year's Day. He thought it would be the best name for the dog as it reflected a "happy day" in more ways than one. I thought this example of attitude was priceless because the man's attitude was very uplifting.
Since then, I looked up the word attitude, and depending on which dictionary is used, attitude generally means "a complex mental state involving beliefs and feelings and values and dispositions to act in certain ways."
This means that it is all up to us; it is up to us to have the attitude that we can accomplish what we want. I once had a co-worker who had a lapel pin that read "attitude". She picked it up at a workshop that focused on having a positive attitude towards anything we do. Often when we hear someone has attitude we think of a "bad" or negative attitude. But, this is not always the case.
When I hear about the stories in rural communities and how amazing activities and changes are happening I know it is because of people's attitudes. Rural communities already have a unique make-up and culture of their own, so having attitude to reflect that is not surprising. The "can-do" attitude has kept many rural communities alive and focused on the values that hold them together. With many influences affecting rural communities the attitude does shift a bit, but it still comes down to the values reflected in rural communities that hold them together.
Attitude is a good thing to have. When people have an attitude of collaboration, breaking down barriers, and focusing on the aspirations of the communities then we have communities that thrive.
I believe it is known that a postive attitude is contagious. If that is true, then the attitudes of positive community building is really spreading in rural Alberta.
What struck me about this man was his positive, fun attitude. As our dogs met each other briefly the man told me about his ten year old dog. He named him Happy because the man received the dog on his birthday which was on New Year's Day. He thought it would be the best name for the dog as it reflected a "happy day" in more ways than one. I thought this example of attitude was priceless because the man's attitude was very uplifting.
Since then, I looked up the word attitude, and depending on which dictionary is used, attitude generally means "a complex mental state involving beliefs and feelings and values and dispositions to act in certain ways."
This means that it is all up to us; it is up to us to have the attitude that we can accomplish what we want. I once had a co-worker who had a lapel pin that read "attitude". She picked it up at a workshop that focused on having a positive attitude towards anything we do. Often when we hear someone has attitude we think of a "bad" or negative attitude. But, this is not always the case.
When I hear about the stories in rural communities and how amazing activities and changes are happening I know it is because of people's attitudes. Rural communities already have a unique make-up and culture of their own, so having attitude to reflect that is not surprising. The "can-do" attitude has kept many rural communities alive and focused on the values that hold them together. With many influences affecting rural communities the attitude does shift a bit, but it still comes down to the values reflected in rural communities that hold them together.
Attitude is a good thing to have. When people have an attitude of collaboration, breaking down barriers, and focusing on the aspirations of the communities then we have communities that thrive.
I believe it is known that a postive attitude is contagious. If that is true, then the attitudes of positive community building is really spreading in rural Alberta.
Friday, November 20, 2009
Neighbour Power!
NEIGHBOUR POWER was a chant that was heard throughout the evening at an Edmonton Neighbourhood Strategy meeting with guest speaker Jim Diers. Diers was creating an atmosphere of food, fun, and storytelling around how communities are utilizing the strength of their neighbours to move forward.
Hearing the "chant" reminded me of one of my childhood shows- Seasame Street. Seasame Street just celebrated 40 years of being televised. The famous song "Who Are The People in Your Neighbourhood" is quite a trademark of the show. However, that song is quite powerful with its meaning for all ages, not just preschoolers.
Who are the people in our neighbourhood? When was the last time we said "hello" to a neighbour? We will only know who our neighbour is if we become active and engaged in our communities, at whatever level works for people.
Diers pointed out some key elements of community:
Hearing the "chant" reminded me of one of my childhood shows- Seasame Street. Seasame Street just celebrated 40 years of being televised. The famous song "Who Are The People in Your Neighbourhood" is quite a trademark of the show. However, that song is quite powerful with its meaning for all ages, not just preschoolers.
Who are the people in our neighbourhood? When was the last time we said "hello" to a neighbour? We will only know who our neighbour is if we become active and engaged in our communities, at whatever level works for people.
Diers pointed out some key elements of community:
- having a common identity
- doing something at a manageable scale
- having key gathering or "bumping" places
- having a vehicle for collective action
- having the power to care for one another
- having power to demand justice
These key elements create a vehicle for bringing people together and moving forward to make communities a better place to live. It can start with two, three or more people, but the important piece is not one person can do it alone.
Diers goes on to say that we need to start where people are- in their own backyard. This is often where the block parties and other such neighbourhood events begin. From here, networks begin to flourish and people's passions can be tapped into.
We need to remember that each one of us have gifts from the head, heart, and hands, but they just look differently for some people. Sharing and building on our gifts can benefit not only ourselves, but also our communities.
Take a moment to chant "neighbour power" and see what happens... you might be surprised.
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
City Boy Meets Country Girl
No, the title is not the start of a country song... rather, it is reflective of how two people with very diverse backgrounds learn about urban versus rural.
The conversation between my husband and I started out as "I have no idea of how you grew up, and I bet you have no idea of how I grew up." The conversation was not about how we were parented, but about how our play and way of life was so opposite.
Rural roots for me meant chores that used a pitchfork, rubber boots, a slop pail, and an axe for firewood. Picking wild berries, gardening, haying, branding, and calving time were all part of my summer. I cannot forget the famous rock picking in the fields! Chores for my urban husband meant cleaning out the bird cage and tidying his room.
Play in rural Alberta was the best in the world... we had the forest, rivers, creeks, fields, hay bales, animals, and so much to explore and experience. At times, we were able to go to a near-by community to attend a 4-H Club or a Girl Guides group.
Play in Montreal was very different... it was going to the arcade, catching the subway, driving to the country, exploring the streets, playing in the park, and engaging in organized activities with friends at the recreation centre.
While my husband has never lived rural, I have lived about half my life in a rural community. At times my husband catches glimpses of rural life as I share stories, we explore Alberta, and I tell him it is his turn to use the pitch fork to turn the garden soil or dig the potatoes. When we are out hiking I wonder if he thinks I am strange when I become excited about strawberry stained hands. The taste of domestic strawberries is nothing compared to that of wild strawberries... just very time consuming to pick!
When it comes to the end of the day, I find that rural and urban people can share some enticing stories about their experiences. What needs to happen is a shared understanding that both rural and urban have much to benefit, contribute, and learn from one another's ways.
I believe we need both rural and urban on the planet to make our world a better place. We just need to get busy recognizing that and then taking action to preserve our rural roots.
The conversation between my husband and I started out as "I have no idea of how you grew up, and I bet you have no idea of how I grew up." The conversation was not about how we were parented, but about how our play and way of life was so opposite.
Rural roots for me meant chores that used a pitchfork, rubber boots, a slop pail, and an axe for firewood. Picking wild berries, gardening, haying, branding, and calving time were all part of my summer. I cannot forget the famous rock picking in the fields! Chores for my urban husband meant cleaning out the bird cage and tidying his room.
Play in rural Alberta was the best in the world... we had the forest, rivers, creeks, fields, hay bales, animals, and so much to explore and experience. At times, we were able to go to a near-by community to attend a 4-H Club or a Girl Guides group.
Play in Montreal was very different... it was going to the arcade, catching the subway, driving to the country, exploring the streets, playing in the park, and engaging in organized activities with friends at the recreation centre.
While my husband has never lived rural, I have lived about half my life in a rural community. At times my husband catches glimpses of rural life as I share stories, we explore Alberta, and I tell him it is his turn to use the pitch fork to turn the garden soil or dig the potatoes. When we are out hiking I wonder if he thinks I am strange when I become excited about strawberry stained hands. The taste of domestic strawberries is nothing compared to that of wild strawberries... just very time consuming to pick!
When it comes to the end of the day, I find that rural and urban people can share some enticing stories about their experiences. What needs to happen is a shared understanding that both rural and urban have much to benefit, contribute, and learn from one another's ways.
I believe we need both rural and urban on the planet to make our world a better place. We just need to get busy recognizing that and then taking action to preserve our rural roots.
Friday, July 10, 2009
Storytelling is Everywhere
Most of us love to storytell or hear stories. I know I loved and still love to hear stories from others. I grew up in a household where storytelling happened while I helped my mom cook or when I worked in the field with my dad. Growing up my much older brothers often said "when you were little you use to...." Of course, I loved to hear things about ME as a child! Now, I treasure these stories. As a child sitting with the adults I was a captive audience as I listened to their stories of the past.
We all participate in storytelling but may not call it that. Sitting around over a cup of coffee and sharing what is happening in our lives is storytelling. Calling, emailing, writing, texting, you-tube, and blogging is a way to share one's story. Using a digital frame or photo album to display personal events and invite conversation about the pictures is storytelling. Even movies is a way to explain particular events.
What makes storytelling important to us? It is a way to share an event and how the events affected us. It is a way to connect with others, celebrate, share challenges and tranfer knowledge.
Communities may not think that storytelling fits for them. But storytelling is already very common for communities. Community websites, local groups with blogs, books about local events, newspaper stories, plaques on buildings, a student thank you card about the field trip to the local grocery store, and numerous other avenues is a way to portray a community story. Snapshot stories or captions about an event or person in a leisure guide are even a manner of storytelling.
The creative side of storytelling can be inspired by using puppetry, music, drama, theatre, costume, dance, art, and several other mediums. Have you ever watched a cultural event or observed an artist at work and wondered about the story behind the tools, costume, or instrument? The curiousity the drives us to find out more about something is quite powerful and rewarding.
Equally important, storytelling is a way that communities can raise the profile of rural Alberta and share the importance of rural communities.
We all participate in storytelling but may not call it that. Sitting around over a cup of coffee and sharing what is happening in our lives is storytelling. Calling, emailing, writing, texting, you-tube, and blogging is a way to share one's story. Using a digital frame or photo album to display personal events and invite conversation about the pictures is storytelling. Even movies is a way to explain particular events.
What makes storytelling important to us? It is a way to share an event and how the events affected us. It is a way to connect with others, celebrate, share challenges and tranfer knowledge.
Communities may not think that storytelling fits for them. But storytelling is already very common for communities. Community websites, local groups with blogs, books about local events, newspaper stories, plaques on buildings, a student thank you card about the field trip to the local grocery store, and numerous other avenues is a way to portray a community story. Snapshot stories or captions about an event or person in a leisure guide are even a manner of storytelling.
The creative side of storytelling can be inspired by using puppetry, music, drama, theatre, costume, dance, art, and several other mediums. Have you ever watched a cultural event or observed an artist at work and wondered about the story behind the tools, costume, or instrument? The curiousity the drives us to find out more about something is quite powerful and rewarding.
Alberta Community and Co-operative Association was represented at a "Growing Rural Tourism" conference where I participated in a storytelling session. Like the Co-operative Association, ACE Communities encourages the communities we work with to share stories in order to communicate successes and experiences. This sharing opens doors for communities to learn from one another. It is a way to discover more about how a community is growing, learning, and changing. The storytelling is an opportunity to understand different ways of doing things and a way to identify assets, both intangible and tangible.
Equally important, storytelling is a way that communities can raise the profile of rural Alberta and share the importance of rural communities.
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